I wouldn’t want to deal with the inevitable baby mama headaches. Yes while it is true that the ex may handle this with class, there is still that possibility that she just wants to create trouble. We don’t know the whole story, just what we know about the boyfriend and the LW. Also, the boyfriend moved on pretty quick from his ex girlfriend and maybe he did know that she was pregnant or maybe he didn’t. There are a lot of possibilities to this situation and I do hope that we get an update from the LW to see how she handled it. Also if the LW is a traditional student then she’s early 20’s, very young to be in this scenario.

It also thusly makes sense that she will place the blame of NOT having LW’s boyfriend as her boyfriend on the LW. People watch too much tv, they think that the express track to love is the only way to go. Slow down people, if it’s actual love, it will last without having to rush things. Its not like she’s claiming to have “fallen in love” after 2 weeks like the LW from this morning. I agree Camille but it’s not just a question of her wanting to stay with him, it doesn’t say in the letter anything about him wanting to stay with her. That’s what would make me scared to go forward.

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He was so sad, but still happy because that he didn’t want the responsibility . He said that he had actually gotten so excited about becoming a dad, and was ready and everything… And then it was all over. I would never in a million years had told him that “maybe you should get one, just in case”.

I also support the concept that you don’t want to be alone for a long time — that love is important and something worth having immediately. I wouldn’t be a dating coach if I felt otherwise. You’ve been a parent longer than I have, so it’s not my job to remind you that being a working single mother with a new baby is just about the hardest job there is on the entire planet. If he’s the one, he’ll wait and take it slowly. A sexual relationship after a few weeks, when you’re heavily pregnant seems too fast when you’re not sure about things.

Yes, it’s true that he won’t have all of his time to devote to you and his child will always be top priority. As long as he still makes an effort in his relationship with you, cut the guy some slack and be happy you met someone you click with. Like everyone else is saying it says alot about a guy that is willing to set aside the fact that your pregnant with someone else’s child to want to date you.

Taking responsibility for a baby should NOT be seen as your relationship deepening or getting more serious. He is taking responsibility but doesn’t mean he’s there with you and all about you 100%. You said yourself he “cares” for you but that’s where you two are different because you actually “love” him. Having a baby doesn’t make a relationship.

Show him you are strong and willing to stand on your own. Let him fall for you and long to have you closer. 6 years later and the response is still very https://hookupranking.org/ helpful to me and my situation today. LW and Rose I am in a similar situation, and would love to know how things worked out for you both so far.

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And you didn’t even mention how your boyfriend feels about this. You started dating pretty quickly after they broke up so he may have not even been looking for a serious relationship with you. I feel like this is a pretty recent development, so he may need to take time to think things over before you even get a chance to react.

You Don’t Have to Seek Marriage Just Because You are Pregnant

Now im alone, and he really isnt here for me and right now i dont want him to be. When the child is born thats a different story. But only if he wants to take care of himself.. Hes really bad, he has racing thoughts and can think people are out to get him. I’m still single, but I do like someone.

Should I Date A Man That Got Another Woman Pregnant?

The thing is, as much as we plan and think we have things figured out, we don’t. Your idea of perfect changes because as long as you’re happy, isn’t that what matters? Who cares if your happiness comes in a rectangle box instead of square? If you found someone great LW, I would honestly want to see where it takes me. She’s not saying she doesn’t want to date a guy with kids.

I declined, telling myself that my now-bloated figure was not in the mood for writhing around with a stranger. But really, it just didn’t feel right to be under the covers with someone who wasn’t the father of my baby. It seemed not only irresponsible but also disrespectful to my unborn child. He typed back a simple “OK,” and for the rest of the night a tape of what it might’ve been like kept playing over in my head. Were the “pregnancy guilts” stopping me from dating like I really wanted to?

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